tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107081108177679207.post3109083328071044895..comments2011-04-14T12:16:36.288-05:00Jill Hasstedthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10790850434351507318noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107081108177679207.post-48865835468173597662011-04-14T12:16:36.288-05:002011-04-14T12:16:36.288-05:00

Awww Emily,<br /><br />You are looking at one post and not the whole idea of allowing children to experience the consequences of their actions. Context is very important. Adults lead with empathy and let consequences do the teaching. That said...natural consequences are the best but sometimes adults must contrive consequences. If you are really interested in Love and Logic I invite you to read

Jill Hasstedthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10790850434351507318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107081108177679207.post-79527002367371194202011-04-14T01:37:02.261-05:002011-04-14T01:37:02.261-05:00

I don&#39;t understand this at all...<br /><br />1. If your energy drain is low, why wouldn&#39;t you stop for ice cream? <br /><br />2. In your last comment you said &quot;...nor should I allow them to make mine miserable,&quot; (referring to making your life miserable). However, by saying &quot;I really wanted to stop for ice cream too,&quot; you&#39;re sending the complete opposite message.

Emilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107081108177679207.post-50594567805131943262011-04-13T07:28:06.332-05:002011-04-13T07:28:06.332-05:00

Oh one more thing....<br />I can tell you are hurting and that makes me sad.<br /><br />I guess I do think that in a civil society we do indeed care about the effect of our actions on other peoples comfort and energy. I should not make others lives miserable.... but (if I have healthy psychological boundaries) nor should I allow them to make mine miserable. <br /><br />Love and Logic invites

Jill Hasstedthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10790850434351507318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107081108177679207.post-85634399190079389042011-04-13T07:20:47.896-05:002011-04-13T07:20:47.896-05:00

Dear Anonymous! Hey a first name would be nice...:) That&#39;s kind of the point. We model taking good care ourselves and this helps children understand they have to take good care of themselves. If they are making a problem for you or for anyone else, then that choice should also have consequences. Arguing in the care is dangerous and distracting to the driver.

Jill Hasstedthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10790850434351507318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107081108177679207.post-5780542830052004852011-04-13T02:23:39.423-05:002011-04-13T02:23:39.423-05:00

I&#39;ve spent years in therapy trying to unlearn that other people&#39;s comfort and energy are my job to maintain.

Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107081108177679207.post-70878595304202129992011-04-13T02:02:07.732-05:002011-04-13T02:02:07.732-05:00

Wow. Way to make your kids responsible for your needs.

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