Sharing Control Through Choices
- Make sure the choices you give won't cause a problem for you or for someone else. (Not: Do you want to work it out or punch it out?)
- Be careful one of the choices is not a punishment - so that it feels like there is no choice. (Do you want to clean your room now or get grounds for the rest of the week?)
- Be prepared to offer two options, either of which would be just fine with you.
- If the child doesn't decide in ten seconds, decide for him or her. - so they can't manipulate you through delay. (Lead with empathy. This is so sad. Children who can't make up their minds get to have their parents decide.)