Thursday, June 23, 2016

Tools for Your Parenting Tool Box - Law of the Instrument

The Law of the Instrument refers to over reliance on a familiar tool!   "If you've heard this statement, "If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail" then you've heard about this law.  (Sometimes it's attributed to Abraham Maslow but the first recorded statement of this law comes from Abrham Kaplan, "Give a small boy a hammer, and he will find that everything he encounters needs pounding."0

So what's that got to do with parenting?
The most basic and primitive discipline tools (yelling, spanking, bribery, threat, warnings) might be all we have in our tool box. Sometimes they work.  And lets face it, you have to use what you have!  

What would parenting be like if you didn't have to over rely on these old tools? Maybe acquiring some new tools might help! It might be easier to build a deck with a screw gun, a nail gun and a couple different power saws then with a hand saw and a hammer.   The same is true of parenting.  Power tolls make family life easier!

In Love and Logic you  learn  what these tools are and how to use them.

  • Leading with empathy
  • Going brain dead
  • The energy drain
  • Strategic training sessions
  • Enforceable statements
  • Guiding children to solve their own problems
  • Recovery time
  • and so much more.
So whether you find a class locally, take the online version, read some Love and Logic books, check out a webinar, or listen to some CDs... there are power tools out there to help you raise great kids and have a great relationship with them!  Parenting can be easier and more fun! More next post!

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