Wednesday, February 20, 2013

What I Love about Love and Logic #4

"Going Brain Dead!"  Love it!

Instead of adding fuel to the fire of an over-emotional child's rampage, Love and Logic suggests responding with "I know" or "I bet it seems that way."  I don't have to come up with a magnificent argument or engage in a lengthy explanation they can't hear anyway.  In fact, since I started "going brain dead," I've discovered the arguments are less emotional and of shorter duration.  I remain calmer because I don't "have" to come up with a response.  I just keep repeating (in an empathetic way) my single phrase.

My calm, non-anxious presence makes our whole family system calmer.   When the rampaging is over, then real conversation and problem solving can happen.

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