Wednesday, February 20, 2013
What I Love about Love and Logic #4
Instead of adding fuel to the fire of an over-emotional child's rampage, Love and Logic suggests responding with "I know" or "I bet it seems that way." I don't have to come up with a magnificent argument or engage in a lengthy explanation they can't hear anyway. In fact, since I started "going brain dead," I've discovered the arguments are less emotional and of shorter duration. I remain calmer because I don't "have" to come up with a response. I just keep repeating (in an empathetic way) my single phrase.
My calm, non-anxious presence makes our whole family system calmer. When the rampaging is over, then real conversation and problem solving can happen.