Friday, November 4, 2011

Kids with Bad Grades Can Have a Great Life  #4

New from Dr. Charles Fay!
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 Chapter 3 in this books asks: Is Your Child Polite and Respectful?

Dr. Charles Fay suggests you celebrate if your children are polite and respectful to adults.  If they are... they're off to a great start.  It might be hard to take a long term (lifetime) view when your son or daughter has just gotten a D in math but  polite kids have a more "Positive Interaction Cycle" (p. 28) with teachers and this sends more positives in the child's direction.  Teachers are human and can't help but give more encouragement and time to students who help them feel good about themselves.  It is also true that children trained in politeness are more likely to  believe that teachers have knowledge and wisdom to share with them.

So, How do you help your children be more polite and respectful?

  • "Eaves drop parenting" is a Love and Logic tool that works!  When your children hear you talking about your job, your boss, politicians, police... do they hear you being respectful?  Do they hear thankfulness and gratitude (a key ingredient in respect) expressed or do they hear all the negatives.  Give your kids plenty of opportunities to be around respectful, thankful adults including you.
  • Provide healthy alternatives to televisionToo much of what they content on TV and on the internet is disrespectful and impolite. Good [parenting involves setting good limits.

  • Lead with empathy!
  • Expect thankfulness and politeness.

  • Reward thankfulness and politeness
Respectfulness and politeness will take most human beings far in life.   A better grade in Math is important in the short run but in the long run...achievement in life is about so much more.

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