I am including a link to an Insider Club email posted by Jim Fay. It covers the idea of NOT jumping in to "help" your spouse if you think they need it or are handling a situation wrong. (Can we agree here that I am not talking about an abusive situation?)The unintentional message to your spouse is: "You are not a competent parent!" The unintentional message to your child is "Dad (or Mom ) is not a competent parent!"
The Insider Club is a free email service from Love and Logic. It always covers just one topic and is a great reminder of the skills you can be putting to good use. It also had discount offers on Love and Logic materials.