Some of Nanny's advice had a Love and Logic ring to it.
- Remain calm.
- Ask for a specific behavior ( ie. "Could you pick up your socks?")
- Assume compliance and walk away giving the child time and space to act. (This comminicateds that you expect and trust that what you have asked will get done.
- More talking does not make a situation better espcially if the talk is hostile and threatening.
- I would add that Love and Logic suggests giving a child even more conrol by letting them choose when to do the task within a given time frame. You could use an enforceable statent such as "Feel free to have your socks picked up anytime before we sit down to dinner."