Self esteem grows when a child asserts their independence and establishes themselves as their own person. Looks, clothes and a positive attitude don't ensure self -esteem. Parents can't give self esteem by trying to make their teen feel good or happy through personal buying power.
The best way to grow a child with self esteem is to make sure they have plenty of opportunities to handle responsibility. That means giving teens (all children) the opportunities to make decisions as well as mistakes.
The best way to do this is to become a parent who guides their children to solve their own problems. Helicopter parents rush in to solve problems and rescue. Drill Sergeant parents tell kids what to do. The end result is poor self esteem because the unstated message is "You are too incompetent to figure this out on your own."
How do you help a child solve their own prbolems? Next post.