Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Teens with Great Self Esteem

Self esteem grows when a child asserts their independence and establishes themselves as their own person. Looks, clothes and a positive attitude don't ensure self -esteem. Parents can't give self esteem by trying to make their teen feel good or happy through personal buying power.

The best way to grow a child with self esteem is to make sure they have plenty of opportunities to handle responsibility. That means giving teens (all children) the opportunities to make decisions as well as mistakes.

The best way to do this is to become a parent who guides their children to solve their own problems. Helicopter parents rush in to solve problems and rescue. Drill Sergeant parents tell kids what to do. The end result is poor self esteem because the unstated message is "You are too incompetent to figure this out on your own."

How do you help a child solve their own prbolems? Next post.

1 comment:

  1. I was talking with a friend yesterday abt this. Her teen lets her step in when make-up tests are not completed with the teacher. I was trying to point out to her that her teen needs to take more responsibility for his grades and step up and talk with the teacher himself. It is very difficult to let the teen goof this up, but so important that she shows him how to talk with the teacher, not be the helicopter parent.


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