Question: When should you have THE talk with your children?
Answer: Maybe you should NEVER have THE talk with your kids because you could always be having talks about all of your values, about faith, about God, and about sexuality. Consider that this stuff is too important for ONE talk... it's probably needs to be more like ten thousand little talks over your child's years at home. Of course, it's not just talk either... your children will "catch" your values from the conversations they overhear, the decisions you make, and the life they watch you live out on a daily basis.
One option is to think in terms of "Deuteronomy 6 Parenting." The prophet Moses had just received the 10 Commandments directly from God when he returned to the people of Israel and passed on this wisdom to them, "These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down, and when you get up." (Old Testament book of Deuteronomy, chapter 6 verse 6-7)
It was Moses' instruction more then 5000 years ago that discussion about faith, values, behavior, and spirituality would take place in the home. It would seem that it was God's plan that it would be fathers and mothers (not churches, schools, or governments) that would be the ones to shape the next generation in this way.
But what if you didn't have a good model for this when you grew up and are stumped totally about the whole sex education thing and could use a little help? Where does Love and Logic fit in? The next 7 or 8 posts should help! In the mean time, you might want to check out the award winning series Learning About Sex from Concordia Publishing House at http://www.cph.org/cphstore/Find.asp? It has recently been updated and revised. The books for children start at age 4 and are gender specific. I've had a team of parents reviewing them and using them in their homes and the feedback is solidly positive!
So here we go. Hope you love this series of posts! Let me know!