One Mom we know had just begun learning love and logic. She had learned about it being non-anger based and wondered how to change her ways. Every morning had become a screaming match with her 7th grader. He was disorganized and couldn't seem to move fast in the morning no matter how much sleep he had. She was tired of struggling to get herself to work and the other kids to school on time... every morning deteriorated to her screaming at him to hurry up while everyone sat in the car and waited.
Some careful consultation with L&L friends led to this plan. She gifted him with an alarm clock to enable him to get up at whatever time he needed to be ready on time and simply said, "Breakfast is at 7:00 and the car pulls out of the driveway at 7:30. " Internally, she committed to a no lecture, no reminder, no screaming morning. At 7:30 she pulled out of the driveway without her son. By the time she got to work he was calling.
"You left without me, how am I supposed to get to school?"
She answered, "Rats! That is a problem. Would you like to know what other kids have tried?"
"What?!" he asked belligerently.
"Some kids walk or ride their bikes to school.
"I am not riding my bike!" he said.
"Good. I'd worry about you on busy roads. Some kids ask a neighbor to take them and offer to pay for gas and some kids call a taxi."
"I can't believe you're such a mean Mom! Maybe I'll just stay home!"
"That's an option. Let me know what you decide. " (and then she hung up.)
He got a ride from a neighbor and even offered to pay her for gas which she declined. The next morning he was on his way out the door by 7:30. The morning screaming dissappeared from this home.